Practical breast cancer support for partners, wives and spouses.
If this is your first time here, and you have a partner with breast cancer, welcome. I'd suggest that you start by looking at the area that is of most interest or most pressing concern for you. For many people, this might be around the Diagnosis section or how to manage your Relationships during this time.
Here are the most popular areas of the site...
Diagnosis - the first 100 hours of breast cancer...
Emotions - for when your partner is just, well, emotional...
Relationships - how to keep it all together, the basics and more...
Just For You - so your life is also disrupted, keep it together...
Being diagnosed with cancer is life changing. But being a breast cancer partner also turns your world upside down. It doesn’t minimize their experience or their terror or frustration to say that it has a significant impact on your life as well. It’s likely to change how you work, how you parent, how you behave romantically, and even what your evening meal looks like.
It’s not always easy to know what your role as a breast cancer partner is. Or how to be the best breast cancer husband. Or how to give the best breast cancer support. Given that you’re reading this, there’s a good chance that you’re willing to go that extra mile and find out how to do it better.
That’s why we’ve designed this breast cancer website to guide you through the key steps of the breast cancer journey, as well as how to focus on you to help get organized and some tips on how to build successful breast cancer relationships that can better cope with being a breast cancer partner. Given that the disease is so physical, you may be surprised at how emotional the impact is.
Breast cancer treatment is fairly linear. Especially if it is caught in the early stages.
It all starts when a breast lump is found whether at home or during a mammogram. There is likely to be the breast cancer diagnosis, then the surgery, which might be a lumpectomy or mastectomy. This might be followed by chemotherapy and then radiation. Or the other way around. Finally, there is the breast reconstruction if your partner chooses to have it done, and there might be hormone treatment which could last 5-10 years.
If the breast cancer has spread or metastasized, then there may well be a different regime to manage the disease.
And on the way, you will have a birthday or an anniversary or even Valentines Day. You’ll want to find a romantic gift that tells your breast cancer partner that you still find her attractive and gorgeous and you’d like to help her celebrate that. There are some wonderful breast cancer gifts out there.
This breast cancer website isn’t designed to give detailed information about breast cancer treatment, or about the symptoms, statistics or prognosis for your partner. There are just too many factors and your health professional will have your breast cancer partner’s full medical history and access to your center’s regime. Each person’s cancer is very much individual.
But you will find, with as much grace, dignity and love as possible, a whole range of information that help guide you in your role as breast cancer supporter. There's also a section on Breast Cancer Emotions that can help you manage better.
We hope that as a breast cancer partner or breast cancer husband you find the site supportive. Please feel free to drop us a line if you want to give us feedback. We’re always trying to improve the site and we’d love to hear from you.
All the best, Abbie
(Breast Cancer Partner)